I read a blog post called An Old Fashioned Love Story today and it simply gave me goosebumps. It is funny how today many have lost touch of what true love is, we get all caught up in finances, life, raising children and other challenges life throws at us that we simply neglect each other or forget to remind our loved one the reason we fell for them in the first place. A relationship takes work, no matter how in love one can be, you need to keep that romance alive.
Romance in a relationship can be something as little as a tap on the butt while your loved one is walking by, a quick hug or even a non-hands on approach with a smile that your loved one knows and can read to be one that says “I love you” without words being spoken.
It is funny because in my mind I know all the little gestures that would keep my partner and me feeling loved but it isn’t about one person, it is about two people on the same page, providing love to one another. It is about learning your partner, finding out what it is that makes them tick and taking time every day to remind them in the right way that they are loved and appreciated.
When it comes down to it, I don’t think I ever really grew up with a true old fashioned love tale, I know my great grandparents have been married a very long time, but I do not see them often, nor did I see them often growing up. My Great Grandmother was my penpal and come to think of it I have never asked how her and my great grandpa met, ever.
Sure I have family and friends who have stayed married to the same person but I will be honest, I do not look to them as a happily married couple, although they may be happy I simply just do not feel they are a true example of an old fashion love story.
Every human being has needs, and some of us have been so lucky to find the perfect match for them where their needs are met more often than not, they are able to keep their marriage fresh, new and alive while raising children and working jobs. I can not say I envy those who do that, I can say I commend them and am proud to see a couple working hard at keeping their marriage and family going strong! I think it is amazing, it is just that I haven’t actually experienced nor seen that in my lifetime yet in person.
I am independent, outspoken and I know what makes me feel loved. I do not need another person to be in my life, I simply want to want another person in my life. It is when you no longer ‘need’ a person that you will find that one true love for you and live happily ever after like the Old Fashion Love Story I read.