How to Open up Communication with Your Tween or Teen

It’s that time, your child has grown into this tween or teenager overnight, or so it seems. Suddenly you are no longer the center of their world and they tend to talk to their peers more so than you for guidance and support. In my opinion, having a tween or teen that goes to a peer for all of their guidance and support is not the best scenario. After all, I am sure you remember what your peers probably would have given for advice and support, none of which is probably the best in the eyes of a parent.

I am here to share with you some tidbits of information that successfully worked for me, while I have yet to have a child who doesn’t come speak to me about everything going on their world, it’s only because I ensure to implement the following procedures to keep our bond strong no matter what age they reach. Fingers crossed that this works for you, too!

How to Open Communication Between you and Your Older Child #parenthood

One the best ways to really encourage an open communication between your child and you is to have that dialogue from day one, sadly not all parents are proactive in this and when life happens, sometimes our children slip away from us a little bit. No fear, you can always pull your child back in and have them become a more open and talkative child who comes to you for guidance and support.  Maybe you are in a newly form blended family, where a child just moved in with you from their other parents home or maybe you are fostering kids, or maybe just maybe, you never even thought about being proactive in encouraging a strong open communication in your household and now you are ready to gain that parental control of open communication back. Irregardless of what has you wanting to try anything to get that child to speak to you, this method will assist in building trust, communication and support between your older child and you.

Step 1 – Use a Notebook as a means of Communicating

It’s not always easy for grown adults to talk to someone face to face, so why should you think any differently of your older child? A notebook setup for you and your child to “talk” to each other through can really assist in building communication that eventually will lead to face to face communication.  Grab a notebook and set it up as a private notebook for you and your child’s eyes only. This is a place where each night (or day) your older child can write down anything they want, anything that is on their mind. The notebook will be passed between you and your child each day; whether at end of day or beginning of day is up to you based on your family schedule/routine.

Step 2- Anything is Allowed to Be Written/Discussed in Notebook

I am sure at first your child will have difficulty in expressing what is going on in their mind, after all remember, you are utilizing this as a means to teach them how to express themselves so that eventually it will come second nature to them in a face to face scenario. While anything and everything is allowed to be written & discussed in this notebook; your ultimate goal as the parent is to guide this notebook communication to be a balance of happy thoughts, personal issues and personal feelings as well as the bad things going on in your child’s life. This notebook is not meant as a negative venting machine, it’s meant to be used as a tool to teach the child to communicate and balance their feelings about the world they live in.

Step 3 – Have Patience

It took years for your child to get to the point where they no longer confide in you, and it may take a couple years to gain that trust and communication back from your child. The best advice ever, as part of utilizing this notebook as a tool, is to remain patient yourself. Each day your child is to write in this, and each day you are to reply in the notebook. Keep your replies balanced and as optimistic as possible. With your written words, you can encourage your child to view whatever is going on with them in a different light. That is your most important mission as a parent using this notebook method to open communication between your child and you; teaching your child to be comfortable speaking to you about anything as well as teaching your child to have more of an open, optimistic mindset about life and things that they cannot change.

Step 4 – Spend 15 Minutes Each Night with your Older Child

You cannot simply use one tool to open dialogue between your child and you. There must be a combination of tools used; in combination with the notebook tool, ensure that each week night you are spending 15 minutes alone with your older child. This 15 minutes can be spent talking, playing a card game, laughing and talking about your days. The biggest key to this 15 minutes is that your child leads the time, it’s about them only and no one else. It’s about them having that one on one time with you because we all know we have to work, we may have younger children taking up all our attention and so forth; this 15 minutes each night with your older child shows them that they still matter. That no matter how busy and stressful life can be, that they are still an important part of your life. The 15 minutes really helps build self esteem, trust and communication.

Enjoy the teenager years!

Combining both the notebook and the 15 minutes each week night with your older child will really prove to be quite successful in getting “your child back”, sure they won’t ever be that little girl or boy again, but at least you can rest assured knowing that you did the hard work and had patience enough to trust that they will at least come to you when times are tough. I wish you much luck during the tween and teen years, and if you have any other methods that worked well for your tween/teen years, do feel free to share in the comment section below!

Happy parenting to you and yours. 

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Help! Blending a Family With Little to No Drama

Blending a family can bring on a lot of stress. When you think about it, there are his kids and her kids who both have, more than likely, been raised with different rules and in a different environment.  The most important piece of advice I can lend about blending a family for the first time is this:

When blending a family of two sets of children {his and hers}, make sure to discuss how you will combine rules, boundaries and expectations. Both sets of children do need to have the same rules based on age group, otherwise you are setting up your blended family home for disaster; a war against his kids versus her kids. 

It can be very difficult when you have one adult move in with the other adult’s already established household, this means one set of the children are already acclimated to the rules, structure and expectations of them within the home. Adding a new set of children into an already setup home, may be more difficult than if you all can simply start together in a new-to-everyone home. If you are like most parents of divorce, then you are probably making a decision to move in with your partner in their home or vice versa; this makes communication a huge necessity. It’s best if you and your partner can discuss every concern and step beforehand.

When blending a family of two sets of children {his and hers}, make sure to keep an open mind about the children involved, after all they are used to listening to Mom and Dad, now they are being combined into a home with new siblings and one new parental figure. Transitioning from a single divorced parent home to a blended family home hits a child completely different than the adults, after all the children didn’t fall in love with your partner – you did.

Keeping an open line of communication from day one with the children involved in blending the family is best. Both parents need to have an open mind and open heart about each others children. These children have all experienced divorce {or separation} of their parents and sometimes with divorce or separation comes two parents who are not the friendliest with each other, if you are the type of divorced parents who get along for the benefit of the children – I give you a HIGH FIVE, as one judge told me, “that is sadly, not the norm.”

How to Blend a Family of Divorced Parents & Kids without Drama #Coparenting

By the time you blend your families together, into one happily blended unit, you will have already realized the type of co-parents each of you will have to deal with. You will, by now, know if the other mother and other father are going to be accepting of you as a new parental figure in their child’s life or not. If the other parent is not accepting, this is going to be a long uphill battle, it will do you some good in simply accepting things you cannot change. Never make the children feel as if you do not like their other parent, try your best to do right for the children’s sake.

When blending a family, you have to take into consideration a lot of factors as to how to handle the children involved; type of environment they are used to living in, their ability to communicate both feelings and thoughts, and their overall acceptance of having new siblings and a new parental figure. In all honesty, the most difficult part of blending a family is to have an open mind and an open heart, each child will come into this blended unit with their own issues; both good and bad, work with each child at their level to ensure they feel trust, love, compassion and safety. All children need, both in a blended and non-blended family unit is – trust, stability, reliability and love.

 

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How can Vinyl wall art stickers can be a great way to décor room?

One among the cheapest method of decorating homes available now is vinyl wall art stickers and decals. Wall decals that are made out of matte vinyl component which is nothing but a sort of plastic commonly and widely made used in different forms in our day to day activities, and hence using vinyl wall art stickers to décor the room will not be harmful to human bodies by anyways. They are a beautiful choice of decorating technique that capable of making a bland room into an innovative, elegant looking space within few minutes without spending much money, time and effort. This vinyl wall stickers have gained immense popularity and due to which it is not getting stopped just by using only in homes, but also made used in business setups, corporate, public places, such as quotes wall decals with some beautiful words or inspirational sayings.

positive wall vinyl art

Attractiveness

If a vinyl wall art stickers are designed using most attractive colors and information, it is capable of making people stand for while and to have a look at its eye-catching view. So, most of the business takes this opportunity and convey their brand reputation to public by placing such magic wall words stickers in public places. On the other hand, it has become other special and enjoyable way for the public to get information from a wall.

Also, there is a large variety of quote wall decals with many sayings for love, family, dream or life. Among all of them, lettering for home are the most popular. They will not only bring love and cheers to your interior space, but also will make your entire family warm and sweet.

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Mostly, this vinyl wall art stickers are used for decorating homes, as there are ample varieties of patterns of this high demand décor way, one can paste few wall stickers on their room to showcase their individualities to their guests and by doing so they can make their life more beautiful and interesting. Even vinyl wall art stickers are available in an extensive range for kids starting from newborn baby to teenage and parents in these days show keen interest in buying them to make their kid’s room look more pleasant and admirable.

funny vinyl wall art options

Reliable quality

Vinyl wall art stickers available in the current market are generally of extremely top notch quality that get easily adhere well in any sort of surface just similar to that of a normal sticker do. If the vinyl wall art stickers are thin, then it can get easily conform to the wall on which a person is applying it. As such, after sticking it, the wall will gain a new dimension outlook and appear to be more beautiful comprising distinct art design which looks as if it is just now painted or stenciled.

Versatile usage

It is not so that vinyl wall art stickers can be paste only on walls, it can also be pasted on any non-porous surfaces like windows, plastic doors, wood, computers, glass, kitchen appliances, hard to touch furnishings. They will get easily attached to it and based upon the imagination of the buyer; they can create great decoration to their space. It can be used both inside and outside their homes and they are resistant against moisture, water and humidity. For both textured and lightly textured walls, vinyl wall art decals can be used as it is highly adhesive on it and will not get easily damaged or automatically peeled off.

Installation is simple and easy

Vinyl wall art decals are so easy to apply to a wall and take only lesser time to decorate when compared to other sorts of wall décor techniques. The application tape makes the process simpler to hold the decal parts jointly while being properly aligned. The person who is performing this activity must maintain little patience and have prior proper planning to get the picture perfect piece of wall art done with ease.

No laborious task involved

There is nothing of the backbreaking task involved in applying wall decals and hence one is no needed to worry with the complexity of using tools for pasting it. Generally, vinyl wall art stickers are coming as self-adhesive stickers which by just peeling off the backside cover, one can easily paste it. Hence, without using any kind of tools, one can easily décor the space using just their fingers and can finish it off all simple process within few minutes to one or two hours maximum.

Flexibility

It is not so that vinyl wall art decals can be used only one time. If a person got tired with a specific choice of decal, can easily replace it with a new one and not necessarily throw the previous one into trash as it is reusable at any time. Still, it is must that while a person removes it, they should handle in such a way that the glue while peeling off should come up to the wall decal, so it can be pasted firmly for the next time also. Even after if one fits it on the wall and find it must be repositioned can easily perform it without any hassle.

beautiful words wall art

Uninstalling is also so easy

The most favorable fact about vinyl wall art is that just similar to that of their simple and easy installation procedure, removing the same is also so simple. Simply, just by starting at one edge of the pasted decal and gently can peel it off from the wall. Rarely, maybe some touch up required on the basis of condition or age of the underneath paint surface. In case if the vinyl wall art stickers are pasted on a temporary basis, such as in an apartment, dorm room, or at an event like a wedding, then there will not be any problem as they can easily remove it.

Creative customized wall decals

If a person wish so, that they are tired and not ready to go with those readily available choices of wall decals, and wish to have their own wall art stickers at their room can definitely get it done from a wall decal shop just by placing the order. It is really more impressive and lively to stay in a room which was sheer designed and decorated by the occupant by herself or himself understanding their own individuality interest. The only thing they should consider is that while making a choice of wall decal shop for getting such customized wall art, they should be capable of understanding the requirement and create vinyl wall art accordingly.

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