From the day each of my children were placed upon my chest in that hospital room to nurse from me, I have been their first and foremost advocate. As a parent, I work hard. Every single day from that first breath they took of air I have been the most loving, supportive and open minded parent. I have had to make tough decisions based on what’s best for each of my children and I have had to give some tough love from time to time, but it’s been the outcome of all these decisions that warms my heart the most. I have three very amazing, unique individuals for children. I have a bond so tight that it is left with no cracks for anyone else to tear apart. Sure, I am biased, however, I have been told how amazing my children are by others on more than one occasion, this is a reflection of their parents.
What really warmed my heart the most, to share a recent memory, is when my first born was relaying how our home works, how I have parented her and her brothers and how I am always there for them. No matter what. To hear my daughter explain that I do my best to always be there for the kids, no matter what. To hear my daughter say; we can tell Mom anything and she will listen, she will hear you out, even if she doesn’t always understand or “get” what the big deal is, she is there, no matter what. To hear my daughter say; even with Aj being special needs and requiring a lot of attention and with K-man being basically ADHD, Mom is always here no matter what. All of those words warm my heart so deeply and bring tears of happiness in my eyes and pride in my soul.
The biggest and most important part of what my children think of me as a parent is that they trust in me and have enough respect for me to always be honest. My children are not afraid to speak their mind, and I have taught them how to do so in a respectful manner. My children are not afraid to tell me everything, down to a recent crush, to something that happened at school or on the playground. These three children of mine have been raised to have such trust in me, that I feel as a parent, I did and am continuing to do my job right.
For the most part, I don’t have to worry much about what’s going on with my children when they are away, because they tell me everything. Sure, sometimes that everything is things that I don’t really need to hear; such as the boys obsession with telling me the color, shape and size of their poop, but if it takes listening to that to get my kids to realize I am there always, no matter what, then so be it. As a Mom, I have worked harder than any other job I have held in my whole life. The best moments about working so hard is that at the end of the day, I will eventually hear everything my children have to say, each get set time with me to talk, ramble, laugh and vent. I am their shoulder, I am their heart and I am their supporter! That is how all parents should be, I only hope every child on this planet can someday have the love that I provide to my three and I do so hope that my fiance’s daughter who just moved in, will grow to feel the same way my children do about me, even if it’s mainly with her father, because every single child deserves these feelings of happiness, love and support in their home! Every child deserves to feel like they are free to be who they are without judgement nor ridicule in their own home.