Following tradition, the bride’s family usually takes control of a lot of aspects when it comes to the wedding. The groom’s family tends to take a little bit of a back seat, ensuring that the groomsmen are suited and booted, and then taking charge with arranging a honeymoon. Nowadays, though, there are much more varied family situations. Plus, couples are tending to get married when they are a little older. So often want to take charge and pay for things themselves. So the roles can be reversed or swapped around, depending on what the family situation is. But if you have a son that is coming up to being married, you might be wondering how you can help as his mother. Here are a few ideas to get your started. Feel free to think outside of the box, though.
- When the happy couple first get engaged, taking charge in meeting with the bride’s parents (or the other groom’s family in the case of a same-sex couple). Arrange to meet them if you haven’t had chance already and plan something that you can all do together.
- It is a good idea to be aware of what the groom ‘typically’ would pay for when it comes to a wedding. Does your son need assistance getting the wedding bands, or help with getting him and his groomsmen suits? You could make a start on planning a honeymoon, with the bride and groom’s say so, of course. Offering financial assistance is something useful that you can do, but there is no need to be too hands on.
- Helping to make any wedding plans can be useful, but as the mother of the groom, you don’t want to be too pushy. You could offer music suggestions, or look into venues or caterers. Giving the couple options to look into is one of the most useful things. So doing some research can really help. Take the music, for example. The couple will know what their first dance song will be. But you could look up options for the bride and her father, as well as a dance for you and your son. Here are the top mother son dances for weddings, for instance, if you need a little inspiration.
- Sit down with the happy couple and talk about the guest list. Are there certain members of the family that need to be invited, or will it be a smaller or more intimate gathering? Often you will know the dynamics of your extended family better than they would. So you can offer suggestions and advice. Particularly when it comes to the seating chart!
- Consult with the mother of the bride as to what they will be wearing on the wedding day. You don’t want to end up wearing something similar or in a similar color. The mother of the groom (as well as the mother of the bride), shouldn’t match the bridesmaids either. So that is just something to bear in mind too.
Good luck as you embark on this exciting journey as a family!
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