This coming Saturday will be our one year anniversary and boy it seems like portions flew by while other days went by slowly. We have had ups and we have had downs. There are many things about this relationship that were new for both of us. For starters, I never had much luck trying to date someone who didn’t have their own kids in the past. It just wasn’t something I had felt like venturing into again. I also ended up not having such luck dating someone with kids. To be fair, it seems I have had a blend of experiences with either side of the fence – men without their own kids and men with their own kids.
The day Mike messaged me online, I laughed. A man who I had a first response of laughter to? Well there’s someone I want to know more about. We conversed; we laughed and had serious talks to. It was all about trying to figure out personality because after all this was mostly text communication which ultimately led to phone conversations. Being that I was out of a rough scenario there wasn’t much I wanted to do in regards to a relationship, I mean my heart wanted a full commitment from someone. I desired to have a partner who could be long term, but I wasn’t going to jump right in because reality is I am just fine being a single mom.
That last sentence is the biggest reason why I think we both have worked out in this last year – both of us are perfectly content being single. We don’t need each other financially nor emotionally to live our life to the fullest. This is something we both discuss frequently. There’s nothing more joyful than being with someone who doesn’t “need” you. We want to be with each other and build this future together. We don’t “need” to do this, we desire to do so!
Once we met, it was pretty much a done deal. We have been communicating and spending time together ever since. We simply click so well and both have the right mindset to make this a long term deal. I am so grateful to have met him and thankful he took a chance to drop me that message last August. It was the best shortest message I have ever received thus far 😉
As a fun way to countdown to our one year anniversary, I will bring forth a discussion each day of this week to just have fun and tell a little bit about our story. Today I simply wanted to do a little intro post and announce this week I will focus on some fun relationship topics that pertain to the future that Mike and I are working towards. I hope that this topic will bring insight to you for your own relationship and inspire you to look deeper at what you have going on in life to make sure you are doing what it takes to put your relationship as a first priority in life.
Please come back tomorrow as I discuss some challenges we have had over the last year …..