How to Effectively Communicate with your Teen Daughter

How to Effectively Communicate with your Teen Daughter Happily Blended Parenting

The joys of a mother and daughter relationship, for centuries back this complicated relationship has effected the communication between Mom and daughter. Many Moms will get a clue that they are in for a wild ride in that one moment they see the insecurities of their own self deep within the eyes of their teen daughter. Regardless of whether you purposely pushed those insecurities onto your teen daughter or not, it happens. The relationship of a mother and daughter is both a beautiful and explosive. Something about the teen daughter who doesn’t think her mother understands her when reality is that Mom completely understands her daughter.

The Mom & Daughter Disconnect

The disconnect that occurs between a teen daughter and her mother can be heart wrenching, it’s a time when Mom starts to walk on egg shells for fear of an explosive response. This time of raising teen daughter’s also brings on new challenges, the daughter now starts to recognize her flaws and if you hadn’t boosted that self-esteem beyond the stars before now, it’s going to be an extremely difficult ride during the teen years. The best thing to do is hold onto to your tail feathers and work towards using the below tips to effectively communicate with your teen daughter.

Clean the Parenting Slate

All too often Mom’s carry this weight of guilt from past decisions that could have been made better. It’s all too common, after all this parenting gig didn’t come with an owner’s manual. Learn to let go of all past decisions gone bad and clean the slate within your mind.

Why? This helps to ensure you are not trudging up old moments with your teen daughter, thus making her shut down because she feels as if you have a grudge for moments past.

How to Effectively Communicate with your Teen Daughter Happily Blended Parenting

Listen Respectfully to your Teen Daughter

There’s nothing harder to do as a mom than to let go of our lecturing side when our teen daughter is in tears or explosively angry at a situation. You want to nurture her, protect her and go fight the bad guys! Stop lecturing; stop trying to fix your teen daughter’s problems. Learn to listen respectfully to her.

Why? This helps to deter the all too familiar teen daughter shut down mode. If your teen daughter trusts they can confide in you with emotions on high and you will simply listen respectfully, they will open up more often to you.

Hold off Your Emotions with Your Teen Daughter

All moms are guilty of turning into this Mama Bear once their teen daughter shows signs of being extremely sad, angered or hurt. This is a natural motherly instinct, but hold off on your emotional response with your teen daughter. Remain calm, listen to her fully and then respond without lecture.

Why? This helps to not fuel your teen daughter’s high emotions at this moment. Remember you are the example in this moment and must exhibit the proper responses so she learns how to work through conflict resolution on her own.

How to Effectively Communicate with your Teen Daughter Happily Blended Parenting

Share your own Teen Girl Stories

There’s nothing wrong with a little bonding between mom and teen daughter. Share some of your own teen girl stories from these years. This is a great way to show your teen daughter that her moment will pass, that you went through similar circumstances and look where you are at. Taking the time to share real life teen stories from your past will help your teen daughter not feel so isolated.

Why? This helps to build trust and allows your mother and daughter relationship to strengthen. During the teen years it’s all too easy to break the bond between mother and daughter. Sharing personal stories will help solidify the bond you had when she was younger.

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  1. Most of the time they just want you to listen and understand them. Most parents react harshly and that’s the reason teens would rather not open up. These are very good tips!

  2. My daughter graduates at the end of this new school year coming up. It’s been a long hard haul, but thankfully we’re seeing the (school) finish line. She’s amazing and beautiful and talented, but she is also a mess right now. A bundle of insecurities and testing me so hard at every turn. It’s like a battleground many days and I think it’s hard to be a teen, and hard to be a mom of a teen, but so very worth it. Every age is a good age too.

  3. I remember my teen years vividly. All I wanted to do was have my mom listen. She rarely ‘heard’ me and was more focused on lecturing me, criticizing me, and would frequently blow of what was happening in my life as insignificant. Which, a supposed friend spreading a rumor at the time was the end of the world to me and my mom laughed it off and said “wait until you have real problems.” As a parent myself now, I try really hard to listen to my kids and validate their feelings – as much as I want to laugh when my 5yo daughter tells me I am ruining her life by not buying princess Elsa underwear. These are all really good tips for any age. We use a parenting thing called “the bubble” … I’ll find the link and send it to you

    1. That’s so true, at any age. They just want you to listen. To hear them. To know that they can confide in you about ANything (good or bad). I somehow managed to get that connection with all 3 kids and I am not 100% sure “how” I did it. Guess I Was just being who I am and what I felt I needed as a child, and don’t feel I received.

  4. This is good advice. There’s nothing better than learning from other parents who’ve “been there, done that”… my daughter is almost at this stage, but I have a few more years. 🙂

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