Love is one of the most emotions studied yet least likely to be understood, psychology doesn’t have the answers to what becomes of us when we are in that state of utter love. We probably can all agree that the feeling of love, that first kiss, hug and snuggle with someone, is the best feeling in the world. When one falls in love and stays in love they are healthier, happier and generally just more fun to be around as opposed to someone who is scorn from love. Just what is it about love and relationships that make someone ask that question of marriage upon another, what is it that forms the bond that creates a relationship that lasts ages?
There are many arguments on what signs are there to let you know that your relationship will last but my opinion is that the biggest factor is trust. The ability to never feel as if that person is keeping something from you or being shady, now there may be times where environment or health conditions make you question all that you live for, I am discussing the ability to trust wholeheartedly that you both have the same end goal for your relationship to be long term. When you feel as if your partner tells you everything and there are no secrets or ulterior motives, trust is built and maintained. Sadly, without trust or even one mishap of the trust being damaged, your relationship may not last as long as you had hoped for.
The next sign that your relationship will last is that you both think of each other when out of the home, let’s say you are grocery shopping and you always pick up that certain something you know your partner loves. Maybe it’s one of their daily needs such as a particular beverage or something that you know they would appreciate you grabbing for them. If you have the ability to think of your partner in ways that allow you to have random acts of kindness such as picking up something they may need, this is another sign that your relationship is built to last.
The feeling of happiness, again this has to be an overall feeling, remembering that it is not up to your relationship to make you happy, but if you consistently feel good about yourself and happy within your relationship then it is built to last. There will be tough times, there will be quarrels, so as long as you never feel as if you can’t win any conversations, meaning your emotions are not actually being held as valid then you won’t’ last. If you are with a partner who accepts your feelings rather than turning it around to debate how they feel you are wrong in thinking or seeing the situation as you saw it, then you will forever feel as if you are let down. A long lasting relationship shouldn’t bring about feelings that leave you crying in the bathroom more often than not to hide away those emotions that will only lead down a path of arguments or you feeling less self-confident.
A long lasting relationship is one in which you can see yourself growing in, both as a united front and as an individual, if you are constantly in this awe feeling of your partner and feel as if you are on top of the world then your relationship is going to last. One tip to ensure you stay in a long lasting relationship is to simply be honest with yourself and your partner, if you ultimately feel as if there is less good than bad happening, then open up dialogue and see if the end result is two people working together or two people going on their separate lives.
Not every relationship is meant to last forever, some are meant to come into our lives to teach us a lesson we needed to learn as a means to go onto our next chapter. May the relationship you are in be the one that lasts for ages.