I can’t say I have the most appropriate words in my vocabulary, I grew up with the assumption that swearing meant you were uneducated but honestly I do swear. I try my best not to but hey I am human and I find myself using swear words when I am upset about something and yes occasionally in regular talk. Do not get me wrong, I do not have a truckers mouth and I believe you do not swear around children, although I am not perfect, I do not swear that often in front of my children. I do not wish them to swear, it is not okay, even for me.
With that set aside, there are a few words my daughter defines as not “bad words” but words that “mommy thinks are bad for us kids to use”. Those words are mean words, such as stupid, idiot, etc. Another word I refuse to let my children use is hate. Hate is not allowed to be used, it is a strong word to me and that is how I explain it to my children. Hate is a very strong emotion that very few truly feel. I can honestly say I do not hate anything nor anyone in this world.
Lately my four year old has become obsessed with the word stupid. Granted he picked it up from my daughter who I can only assume picked it up at school or from her father, more on that another time. The word stupid has become a common word for my son AJ who now calls every person on a video game that wins, stupid, who calls everything in the world stupid. I have a hard time with this, because I do not like using the word stupid, especially as much as this child has been using it lately. Everything is stupid from food to toys, stupid. I can say it is annoying, very very annoying to hear him use this word so fluently and I am working on nipping the habit in the butt.
Ki is famous for calling drivers who pull out in front of you idiots or those that take up a couple more parking spots than needed idiots. She informed me that is what Daddy says, and I have informed her that idiot is not okay to say nor call someone else and she has stopped using that word.
Another word, hate, I can not stand this word. Hate exhibits a strong emotion that I feel must be reserved for the most appropriate situations. A four, two and eight year old can not say they hate a thing, seriously! I know I am 29 years old and do not hate a thing nor person in this world. Ki has been taught from a young age to not use this word so when she found her brother who is four years younger than her using it she explained why we don’t use the word hate in this household and the boy never said it again.
So what words do you feel are just uncalled for and you won’t allow your children to use? Obviously swear words … but besides that.
we don’t allow the words retarded or gay – though she is far too young to use those right now. But stupid and idiot will be on that list too as she gets older.
Oh those are good words, haven’t come into play with them. My kids are 8, 4 and 2. It seems stupid, idiot and def shut up are famous, although my 8 year old will promptly correct her little brothers if they say shutup, because Mama says it is a bad word đŸ˜‰
You named most of the ones on my list. I have had so many on it, that I can not think of all of them at this time. But the “normal” ones mom’s don’t like to hear there kids say. Oh “Shut up”… I don’t like that. That is one on my list..
OH yes, shut up is a BAD word here, my four year old seriously calls it a bad word, but Ki explains to him it’s not a “bad” word it’s just not a nice word and Mama doesn’t like that word being used because it is rude.
I allowed those words but I didn’t allow them in reference to people.Does that make sense?
That makes perfect sense. My children tend to use them towards people or things like that … mainly the BOYS .. they are mouths for sure!
The only words I have a problem with are hate, retarded and gay. My 10 yo is Autistic so we fight the battle of using words we don’t understand A LOT. These three are the ones he uses the most and I simply try to reinforce what those words truly mean. My hope is he will understand how to properly use those words after he gains an understanding of what they mean.
The 4 yo however seems to love words like jerk and jack ass (that one’s from his father!) but thankfully he’s shifting out of the latter and seems to use the former more. As long as I don’t get a call from the school, I’m good though. đŸ˜€
None it seems – RT @brandyellen: What words are on your "do not say lists" at home with your children? http://ow.ly/4cDOJ
hmmm, most of the words already mentioned here are no-no’s in our house. Anything hurtful, mean or ‘nasty’ is def. not allowed!
“Sucks” drives me CRAZY and every time my boys go to their father’s house they come back talking about “this sucks” and “that sucks” and it makes me insane.
Words I Do Not Allow (from @BrandyEllen) http://ow.ly/4d0XA ^FM
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