Oh my gosh, this past week has been simply amazing with my son AJ who turned four this month. I am sure you have seen a post here or there that mentions his aggressive behavior and how he is the only one out of my three children like that. Well this past week I was given a whole new little boy! At least that is how Justin and I feel, this four year old boy says please, thank you, love you, and gives hugs like you wouldn’t believe. I think AJ has turned into quite the affectionate little dude since turning age 4 and it’s left me with my jaw dropped wondering what happened?!

I was talking to Justin about how proud I was with AJ’s behavior lately, of course he still has his sleep issues off and on, but the day time hours are so much easier because he is what I call a “normal young boy”. Sure he pops his brother in the had for taking a toy or pushes his sister or pulls his sisters hair and yes sometimes he still hits me on occasion but overall my AJ has had less and less aggressive reactions as the days go on. It’s like AJ woke up to be age four and the way he has been since before age two has been removed 90% from his mind or body, whatever the word is.

All I can say based on my experiences with AJ is that patience, consistency and love will outlast any medicine or negative attention you can give to a child! Justin and I have worked so hard to be positive and loving with AJ, even though we haven’t been perfect, we have yelled out of frustration at times, we have placed him in his room for “chill out” time so that we could recoup before, but overall our main parenting technique with AJ {and our other children} is to remain a positive, consistent and loving as you can. This is not to say you won’t fall on your face and be negative or say something in a loud tone or say something you don’t mean to your children, it simply means you focus the majority of your efforts in parenting to be that of a positive nature! Once you can learn to be as positive as you possibly can be and to simply love your child or children then you will see a huge change in their behavior over time that will make you happy that you chose positive parenting!

My son AJ smiles often now, he wants to talk on the Flip video often and he is so full of love and affection that my heart melts every day when I see how much better he has gotten since the days of destruction and anger started!