Everyday I run into a person either virtually or in real life who asks me the same question “how do you do it?” Of course my response is usually asking them what they mean, because I am just another Mom trying to raise my kids to the best of my ability while making a living working from home. I have struggles, I have challenges and man do I have a lot going on in my personal life right now. I will soon be a legally separated mother of three, which means yes a single work at home mother of three. Now I could sit around wondering how my marriage got to be the way it is, I could sit around blaming someone else for the situations I find myself in. I could also spend many hours wondering what my family will think of the decisions I make in my personal life, but reality is I do not care. Don’t get me wrong, deep down in side there is a part of me that still hangs on to the fact that I do care what others think, but a bigger part of me knows I am who I am and that is all I can be, as long as I live each day to the best of my abilities and when I lay my head down at night (or early morning) I feel accomplished and happy about the decisions I made that day.

Being the outgoing, positive person I tend to be is all mind over matter, I am what I think I am and I can be whatever I think I can be. I tell my chidlren often that it’s not about the things you can’t do, it’s about what you can do! I am a firm believer that our children learn through behavior, not through our commands. Each day I wake up with a smile on my face, ready to begin a new day! My typical morning starts with a 3 year old who is grumpy and wants food and juice immediately upon my eyes opening, getting my oldest ready and off for school and tending to an 18 month old who is highly spoiled and thinks he rules the house. I could take all that happens within the first 20 minutes upon waking up and decide to call it quits for the day, sit down and stress over the fact that three little ones need so much from me first thing, when I barely can function properly OR I can take my life for what it is, accept that my children are my world and first most priority and go with the flow! I go with the flow, every morning I dragged my lazy, tired body out to kitchen to serve breakfast to my three children because I love them, I love the life I live. I live my life to love and support my children.

Once my children are settled in, my Blackberry gets turned on and I update my Twitter and Facebook status as well as check emails for anything that requires my attention that day and I smile. I literally sit here smiling while checking over 200 emails, juggling the three kids making a messy breakfast situation and I think about how much I love what I have. I make a conscious choice to focus on the great things in my life and that is what makes me succeed in life. I used to be very insecure, shy, and very negative. I thought I was fat, ugly, and never going to make it. I felt a man was what I needed to make me feel better, I thought the love of my best friend is what I needed to make me be happy. Reality is I need no one to make me happy and a year ago I woke up and realized that I married someone for the wrong reasons and that I found myself co-existing with a person who, although is one of my best friends and a great father, is not what I expect to have in a long term relationship. It took me a year to realize the mistakes I made, and although I could sit back and destroy myself emotionally about the facts that I am realizing today, I refuse to do so.

I do allow my emotions to come up and I do cry, I feel bad and I dislike admitting the current situation to the world, but at the same time I feel sharing my personal story and my personal journey to be a happier, better me will help those around the world view their lives in a whole new light. Hopefully you will read my stories and think about those you love most, think about the negative you let consume you and maybe, just maybe me providing you a positive outlook on life and how one mom who is about to find herself legally separated and a single Mom of three doesn’t let anything tear her down. If anything each day I wake up stronger and more positive because I was able to look into my eyes in the mirror and make realizations out loud to myself and the world about who I was, who I am and who I want to be. I was able to look in the mirror and love who I am without conditions, without limits and that is why each day I live life to the fullest and you will see me smiling my best smile ever, because I found ME.