You Can’t Please Them All

I am a very sensitive person, well I used to be really bad! I would cry if one person, just one person tried to debate with me. My stomach would get all in knots, my face would turn bright red and tears would instantly fall from my face. It was as if I had no control what so ever!

When I first started blogging I wasn’t quite sure what direction I wanted to go in, I knew that writing was a way for me to get things out of my mind and on to paper so that I can move forward in a positive way. I also knew that writing was a way for me to share who I am with everyone and possibly find others who are similar. After all I live in the same small town I grew up in and it’s hard to meet new people.

When I first started blogging I was all paranoid about whether I would get any comments, if someone would even subscribe to my ramblings and if my site would actually do anything. I don’t mean do anything in terms of money because I didn’t start a blog to make a revenue, I started it as an outlet and eventually my blog grew as my voice and confidence grew!

Since December 2008 when I started running my blogs I haven’t received more than a couple negative comments, but reality is as my confidence grows, my voice changes and I start blogging about more controversial topics I may get some negative comments.  The few negative comments I have had were not threatening, although bordered on “judgemental”, but overall they were not as bad as some other comments I have seen on other blogs.

The point to this is, I am no longer that super sensitive girl who thinks everyone is super polite and that everyone knows how to have an educational debate, the world is full of a variety of people and this I can accept. Too many people love to spout off  “it’s not fair” at everything in this world that doesn’t go exactly as planned. I say enough of it!! We teach our children that life is not fair, we teach our children to work hard for what they want, we teach our children to be honest, and we teach our children to respect others. I wonder why so many adults can’t seem to live the way they try to teach their children to live?

I say to you if you have a blog and someone has to stop by and leave a negative comment or a judgmental comment that really has no purpose other than to draw more attention to themselves, then let them be. Just like YOU, they have a right to voice their opinion in the form of a comment on your blog post as long as their opinion doesn’t break any laws. Take their comment with a grain of salt, shrug it off and remember “You Can’t Please Them All”.

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  2. Jessica (107 comments) says:

    Great post. I used to be the same way. Pretty much just shut down. Writing has been the only way I truely feel comfortable letting stuff out. It works for me, too ;) I have thought I was following you all along, but I guess not. I am on twitter! Stopping by from SITS and hope you have a great day :)
    .-= Jessica´s last blog ..What’s For Dinner? =-.

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  4. Joe M. (1 comments) says:

    Another great post.

    I especially like your comment “I wonder why so many adults can’t seem to live the way they try to teach their children to live?”

    That is something I see almost daily and I always find myself asking that same question.

  5. Amy (47 comments) says:

    Brandy, my now-deleted comments on your term paper post were not to draw attention to myself. I am a librarian and I spend a great deal of my time trying to teach students not to plagiarize. You speak in this post of teaching our children to be honest, yet you are promoting with a link a service that lets people pay them to cheat in school. Now, it occurs to me that perhaps that link was auto-inserted by your advertising agreements. Since you said it was a sponsored post, I thought that meant it was the term paper service that sponsored it. If I was wrong, I apologize. But even if that link was unintentional on your part, your post says you hope you can find someone to write your term papers for you. Do you want your children to read that when they’re in junior high or high school?

    I apologize for reacting so strongly, but the rates at which students cheat these days is through the roof.

  6. Andrea H (34 comments) says:

    All my life I have battled with trying to please everyone and I too have learned that it’s just not possible. Great post Brandy!

  7. Louise (171 comments) says:

    I”m super sensitive too. I always cry when someone raises their voice at me. I hate my tears and wish I had more control. You are very good at voicing your opinion. I love coming to your blog and checking out what you have written about. I wish I had half the creativity you do. ;-)

    As far as negative comments, I get them, I get them in my e-mail too. Esp if I wrote about a company and someone completely disagrees with my post. Sometimes I just hit delete but other times, I really have a hard time ignoring the rants.
    .-= Louise´s last blog ..Ways to Save with the My Savings blog and affiliate program. =-.

  8. Elizabeth (18 comments) says:

    My mom always used to tell me just that: “You can’t please everybody”. It’s so true. Blogging really does open some raw wounds if you let it. I am also really sensitive to negative comments (well, not so much negative but intentionally hurtful), so I disabled my blogs “anonymous” commenting. Haven’t had a problem since!

    ~Elizabeth
    .-= Elizabeth´s last blog ..I Am Hungover… RIGHT NOW =-.

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