Yesterday was Veteran’s Day so my husband wasn’t working and we spent most of the day moving his big items out of the house into the garage so that he can have an easier time moving a week from Sunday. I tell you this moving stuff is making me insane.
First, I am a detail orientated person, must be organized and can’t stand having items out of order. Moving is certainly not my thing, although I have enjoyed moving many times in my life since age 17, I am the type of person who can’t stand having boxes or items laying out without a “home”. Now that my husband is moving out and we are separating I find myself with very little items. I was a single Mom for many years before committing to my husband, I dated a little bit here and there, I was dating someone almost a year but nothing ever turned as serious as my husband and I did. Most of the items in my home were mine and I had life set up the way I liked it.
When my husband moved in, he had been a bachelor for many years and had accumulated a lot of “stuff”. I am not a materialistic person, have always had to be very smart with my money and so the items I own are few and the only reason I even own a Wii right now is because of my husband, in the past I would have never bought such an expensive item on my own.
Now my home is small, it’s a little over 1000 square feet and is a 2 bedroom but we created a 3rd temporary bedroom for my daughter to allow her privacy from her crazy brothers, she is now 7 and entering the age of girly times which means she needs her own space.
Last night I went to go to bed and tripped over so many items that are laying on my bedroom floor, why? Well because the bureau (or dresser as some call it) was my husband’s, and now I am left without one. I do have a wicker two drawer piece of furniture that I am using for some of my clothing but it’s no where near large enough to store what was originally placed in and on a five drawer bureau.
I can tell this transition from married Mom to single Mom is going to be a challenge, not to be single although that is kinda scary at times with AJ having all his behavioral and mood issues, but to be single, with very little items. I know items are not important but being organized is important to me, so until I get items organized I will not be myself … I shall try to keep up with everything but this move isn’t happening fast enough for me, I honestly had hoped when my husband went Monday to sign the lease that he could move this weekend, rather than next weekend. I need time to get organized before the holidays hit.
I figure what’s another week or two, anyways?! We are still friends and we get along just fine, we are not separating because we hate each other, we are leaving each other because after at least a year of talking we realize this is a much needed move. We are being civil to each other, we are allowing each other to go out and spend time with friends and I may even be camping this weekend … depending upon how cold it is to get away on the weekend my daughter is with her father.
So … if I don’t smile as often as I normally do or my writing seems off … just know it’s because moving is making me crazy … until I get organized again my head will be preoccupied with getting my life organized again and not to mention I have a new part time job I am training for and a MomTV show that must start soon … ugh!
All I keep saying is … ’tis the life of MOM … and this too shall pass!
Make it a Happy Day!