I tell you, I have a lot on my mind and have for about a year now. Things are not always perfect and never in a million years would I expect life to be perfect, however, there are certain things I expect from the life I live; happiness, following my heart and making decisions that better my family and myself. That being said, I have created the video below that explains in brief my situation; I have a heart felt decision to make that will affect my current family situation and it’s almost as if my mind and heart have been made up but my mouth won’t allow me to speak the final decision.
I have been known to be a “push over”, I am always worried about hurting other peoples feelings, but in the long run worrying about treading lightly to ensure others are not hurt means I get to be hurt and I feel no one should live feeling the numbness I have been feeling for a long time … so watch the video and tell me … how do you determine what decision is best, how do you follow through with this decision and do you worry about your family and friends not supporting you in the decision?
This video was made with my Creative Labs Live! Cam Optia AF 2.0MP Webcam
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Hi Brandy.
I know what you mean about having the decision made, but allowing your mouth to make it. I think you have already made your decision. I also think if you could have someone tell you it is ok to make it-then you would feel better. But ultimately it has to be yours.
Weighing the pros & cons is definitely a good idea and how the life long effect will carry on. Since I don’t know your dilema or who is it about (which I don’t have to know)-you have to rely on your instincts. Talk it over with your husband etc. I think you will find your way. Good Luck!
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(21 comments) says:
Girl, you are so not alone! I struggle so hard…I do remember making a few and although they were the best decisions I could have made for myself & children, it took me months and one years to do. As you, I worry about those around me, what they will think, how it will affect them..blah blah blah…all the while it tears me apart inside.
You have my support, if you already know what is right in your heart to do…you got my virtual hand to hold onto as you do it!!!
HUGS many of them sent your way!
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It’s hard to make decisions when their is so much riding on them. Try not to worry too much what others will think. Do what’s best for you and your family.
For me, whenever I have been faced with tough choices, I always pray and ask the Lord to help me make the right decision.
Good luck with the decision and the telling!
I don’t know your situation but…when making a big decision I think it’s best to think of all of the people that’s involved , don’t get carried away w. emotion,stay grounded and let yourself be heard… Good luck with this situation….
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(52 comments) says:
For me the answer is usually hidden in asking myself what will happen if everything goes well. I usually dwell on worrying about what the worst case scenario will be, which is a terrible way for a mom to make a decision because worst case always involves the kids being emotionally scarred and in therapy for life. Somewhere deep down inside I know that’s unlikely, but I have to really discipline myself to not think worst case.
The people that care about you will support your decision no matter what, even if it takes them a while to adjust to it. I usually find that I end up disappointed in certain people that I thought would be supportive but aren’t, but then there are others who pleasantly surprise me and are more supportive than I expected.
I wish you the best of luck.
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Brandy,
I think that in your heart you know your answer…you are just waiting for others to affirm it. I personally feel that if it will benefit you and the family in the long run then to go all out and do it. It is not point to keep pondering over the issue without making a decision as it is stressing you out and affecting your mood. I’m sure that the kids are able to sense that you are troubled and it may affect their mood to.
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I go with my gut. It has never, ever failed me and has prevented some horrible things from happening because I listened to it.
I would just follow your heart and do what you need to do before telling whomever it is that is going to be upset. It’s easier to deal with when the ball is already rolling, than it is to defend something you still have yet to do.
I, like you, am a person pleaser. I have never had to make any life changing decisions, but I feel like – in any situation – you have to do what is best for you and your family. Try to remain strong and confident in your decision and know that your readers support you:)
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Girl I hope it’s not the decision I think it is!
I tend to hem and haw but I also pray and the answer usually is very obvious. I’ll pray that you make the decision that is best for you and the kids.
Oh and I get no support from my family anyway so it never matters what I do!
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Oh gosh!!!! I can feel your pain. I have no good advice, since I typically do what will please everyone else around me and put myself last.
So, my advice is to be better than me!! Do what you visulize will have the happiest outcome for everyone down the road.
Twitter: PainterMommy
(101 comments) says:
Life changing decisions are always difficult to face. I am a lot like you where I worry about what other people think. It really does take a lot of courage to put those feelings aside and make right choices based on what is BEST for you or your family.
You really have to step out and be confident. You are a great person and I know that you will make the right decision with whatever you are facing. I hope it all works out for you, with the least amount of stress and worry.
God bless you sweety, DAWN
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