One thing I wanted to be certain of when my oldest started school was to allow her to enjoy as many activities as she shows interest in without over scheduling her. As a parent it’s so hard to know what is over scheduling for a child. At this time my daughter has Girl Scouts one night a week and soccer two nights a week.
Soccer is not year round and so I figured having three nights of activities for a few weeks isn’t as bad as a year round thing. My daughter seems happy, so far she hasn’t shown any signs of being stressed, if anything she is super excited because her Dad coaches her soccer and I registered as an adult with Girl Scouts. Being in a blended family means that my daughter must always figure out a way to balance living in two homes, after all she is pretty much at his house two overnights during the week and every other weekend. The reality is my daughter has two homes and has since she was four months of age.
Scheduling is tough for me being an interactive Mom of three and a business owner. Not only do I need to be certain my daughter is enjoying every opportunity that she wishes to, but that I can take her to or attend these events with her. I have two boys who are one and three and they take up a lot of my time. For instance, last year we couldn’t do Girl Scouts together because I was still breastfeeding Baby K and there would be no way I could attend Girl Scouts weekly and the events that Girl Scouts holds while still ensuring Baby K got the food supply he needed (pumping never really worked for me).
So this year is our first year to be able to enjoy some Mother/Daughter time and I must admit it is a great feeling when she actually has something special to say about her time with Mommy. After three years of her having to share her home at Mom’s with at least one sibling and being able to be the center of attention at her Dad’s she finally is able to enjoy some quality time with me and seems thankful for it! Usually it was her Dad who was able to take Ki to events and do special things with her, after all he is single and she is his only child.
The reality is I often was jealous, although I didn’t show it nor would I ever tell my daughter I was jealous of her raving about her fun times with Dad (that’s just not fair nor right to do to a child). This year I am more worried about ME being over scheduled than my daughter! She gets to enjoy a few weeks of TWO activities where I get to enjoy a whole week of PTO website updates, monthly PTO meetings, Girl Scouts once a week and attending soccer two nights a week to show my support all while trying to run my business, my blog and ensure my two boys are getting adequate Mommy attention too!
I tell you the life of a Mom is a busy one! Being a parent, whether father or mother certainly has it’s challenges and moments of exhaustion but the pay off is worth every lost moment of sleep … I get to wake up each morning to a hug, a kiss and an “I LOVE YOU MOMMY”, what more could one ask for?
Make it a Happy Day!