Not Now … I’m Busy

Last night my daughter asked me a question that only comes around once a month, if I’m lucky. The question was “Mommy will you snuggle with me”. When this question is asked I am often found responding that I am busy, I have to get my work done. I work at night while the children sleep, and am often up beyond midnight working or trying to find money due to my husband no longer working his full time job. Last night when she asked and I started to utter the “I am busy” response, I stopped, shut my mouth and laid down to snuggle with my princess. The reason I stopped was because  just then in that moment I realized that my only daughter is getting older, and soon there will no longer be the wanting of Mommy snuggle time. As my daughter gets older she will probably stop holding my hand through the grocery store or when we cross the road, she will soon become an independent child who no longer wishes to have Mommy’s hand help her out in this world.

All too often we worry so much about financial responsibilities and the burden it would be if we didn’t pay our incoming bills, but that leaves us missing the wonderful family memories that can only happen under certain circumstances. If we focus on what “needs” to be done, we will lose focus on what “should” be done. Meaning a short one minute snuggle time is not going to keep you from anything important, honestly, what does one minute out of my five hour work night keep me from? Losing one minute isn’t going to lose me money, it isn’t going to make the sky fall and it certainly isn’t going to create a financial hardship.

That one minute lying next to my daughter hearing her say “Mommy I missed you” is worth losing everything, why? Quite simply because that is why I chose to be a work at home mom; to never miss those sweet moments with my children, to be the one my child misses, to be the one my child comes to whenever they need a helping hand and to be that Mommy they deserve and need to grow into mature, well rounded, responsible adults.

I shed a tear a little while back when I watch a video @sugarjones made, it was called “What If” and it is so similar to this topic that I wanted to share the video with you:

What If? from Sugar Jones on Vimeo.

What Sugar says is oh so true, and that is my point to snuggling with my daughter … not only will my daughter be older and no longer ask for snuggle time, but what if tomorrow never comes? The only thing we can be certain of is TODAY, the past doesn’t matter and the future is unknown … so why not stop and take a moment to snuggle with your little or big one today, tell them you love them and let them know how much you care!

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  1. Thank you so much for posting this. I was just thinking about this last night. I too have a little girl who is growing before my eyes. Bills are never going to go away, but moments of when my daughter wants to be with me will.

  2. The is so very true! You hit the nail right on the head, we choose to work from home so not to miss these moments and we shouldn’t miss them! Great post 🙂
    .-= Chrissy´s last blog ..Remembering 9/11 =-.

  3. Thank you, Brandy (and Sugar) for this beautiful reminder. I’m tired of the guilty tug I feel when I have to tell the kids not now or I’m busy. I’ve been working on managing my time differently, and this post is a reminder of why it’s so important that I do!
    .-= Mary@Everyday Baby Steps´s last blog ..Makeup By Lauren Luke =-.

  4. That is so true! We often don’t take the time for our children because of other things that we think are important. We lose focus of the really important things like snuggling! We need to appreciate each day and not live our lives saying what if.
    .-= Nancy M.´s last blog ..Love At First Sight =-.

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